Cartoonistguy wrote:... I apologize for what sounds like self pity. I'm just not able to cope. I know you all suffer, and many people suffer much more than me (not much more than my mom has, though). I just can't handle the inner agony.
I guess we all indulge in self-pity and inner agony that we seek to hide from others... but what you call your "whining" is only giving words to the emotions that the VAST majority of people feel.
So don't feel bad about putting your heart and soul out here asking for help - if people can't relate to what you're feeling they are not being entirely truthful with themselves.
Now that being said I'm not too keen on your tone of "thank you BUT" - I'm pretty empathetic with you and would be lying if I said a suicidal thought never crossed through my head various low moments - but if I were there with you I'd probably slap you across the face to wake you up and get you to take a look at yourself.
You've prayed to God and he hasn't given you the answer you hoped for... but that's not the way prayer always works. God in my eyes is like a parent - he doesn't always give us what we want, he gives us what we need. And it may be that your mother needs and deserves to be with him in heavan. It may be that you need to come to terms with your own mortality and finally begin to LIVE.
I doubt he's given you the easiest path to follow - but over time you might be surprised to discover that He DID respond to your prayer, doing what is best for both you and your mother in the grand scope of things.
The fact is, I believe, is that very few of us can fully comprehend our own mortality. I'm unsure whether that's a blessing or a curse - perhaps for some their own self-denial of their mortality allows them to be more "functional" and focus on other things our culture equates as important/successful.
Ideally we come to terms with our mortality, and then we recognize that our role in this dimension of existence is to focus on the development of our soul. I think very few of us are able to block out the constant din of Mother Culture and what she's constantly telling us about what priorities in life should be (money, material goods etc...)
This in itself sets us up for conflict within ourselves, and what our soul knows is true and what culture tells us to believe
I'm rambling I know but your inner turmoil I'd guess is about much much more than your mother dying - its about a culture of death that on a spiritual level you are rejecting, looking for alternatives wherever they may exist.
Ultimately I'm guessing that Utopia isn't a location but a state of mind, where you just decide to trust in God, and know that you DO have the strength to deal with all this, and be the man God always wanted you to be, enduring your suffering and emerging all the stronger for it.
Good luck buddy!